By Rev. Brandon Nagel, Senior Minister

These core behaviors serve as guidelines for us to check in with to see how we are living up to the values we have chosen and the core values for our lives. When we wonder if we are really living in integrity with our value of love, we can ask our self, “Well, am I seeking the good in others? Am I responding with empathy to those around me?” If we are willing to be honest with ourselves, the answer is either yes or no and then we can adjust our beliefs or behavior accordingly. But before we can do that, we must first become very clear on what those behaviors are for us. We must understand that these behaviors are unique for us. Sure, there could be some overlap in our individual idea of what it means to be love, but because we have had different experiences and it is these experiences that lead to different ideas of what any particular value may mean for you individually. I would also encourage you, just like with the values themselves, to try as best you can to not get carried away with behaviors. The goal is for you to be able to remember them and if you have thirteen ways of knowing you are being joyful, well… it may be hard to keep track.
So, you have an idea of what these can look like and about how many you should have, but what do you do to identify them? Well, honestly there are several different methods of identifying what these behaviors look like, but the one that always worked best for me was taking time in meditation and simply asking the Divine in you.
Here’s what I do:
I grab a piece of paper and something to write with.
Then, I sit down, close my eyes and begin to relax. As I feel my body begin to relax (I can always tell because my shoulders drop), I ask the question,
“If I am living in sync with the value of inclusiveness, what am I doing?”
And then I listen.
When something comes up, I write it down.

Taking this extra step with your core values helps move them past lovely things that you tell yourself about how you want to live your life and move them into concrete things that you can do to increase your awareness of the presence of God in your world. Ultimately that is what any spiritual practice will do, provided you take the time to engage with it. Living in integrity with your core values is simply one more way for us to take one step closer to being the full and unyielding light of God
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